Looking Up

[Heywyre]

The last couple of days have been exhausting to say the least

SIL, at least, is doing better. They air ambulanced her to Vancouver so at least my H didn't have to go to the city where OW lives. He was VERY pleased about that

SIL only had two aneurisms operated on, they thought that was enough for the time being. She's a pretty frail person at the best of times. She is still in ICU and will be there for at least another week then they will decide whether to operate on the other side of her head. So we spent most of our weekend going back and forth into town (over an hour each way) to see her but what choice did we have really

On another note, we went to the C on friday and had a big blowout when we left there. H said C and I were "ganging up" on him - hmmm doesn't like the truth huh. So needless to say, that night was shot

The next day we went to see SIL but later that evening H wanted to "talk" and we aired quite a bit. We went over a lot of things - i.e. trusting, fear, snooping, the OW. I told him a lot of things it was suggested I didn't (i.e. the website with the OW on it, the fact I was still checking up on him etc) but, truthfully .... I'm glad I did. He had to know the reality and all the lies she told him and I didn't feel good about what I was doing either. He has distanced himself from her enough now, plus with the help of AD, to know that what he did was wrong, and he has sacrificed a LOT. He said that he has no desire to contact her and rarely thinks about her. He tells me when he does think about her, which is decent of him, but says the emotion of it is not like it was by a longshot. He says its becoming more of a distant memory everyday. He says he thinks about her and sometimes feels bad, especially for her kids. He doesn't feel bad about the money he gave her because he knows most went to the kids (and personally, I would never begrudge them that either). But after I told him about her webpage and what she advertised, he said it disgusted him and IF he had any desire to see or contact her before, that in itself would discourage him from doing it. He said that world sickens him now and he can't believe how he got sucked into that vortex. I know he is not just saying those things. He really thought he was helping her and the kids and she used him, like all the others (surprise, surprise). No one likes to be played the fool

He also went to the C today and they talked about sex (or lack thereof). I was surprised H even told me that. He said the C said he could see H getting back to "normal" and that they could cut back their one-on-one sessions (good because I think I need them now)

He also told my H that I was (get this) an "incredibly intelligent and logical woman" and that it wasn't very often he ran into women like me, especially as clients. H agreed and said it was one of the reasons he was attracted to me

He also asked my H if he felt it hard to have a satisfying sexual R with an intelligent/logical woman and H said "yes" but that he knew it was important if our R was to last. He also said that he felt our R was going to get stronger because of this

That was very encouraging to me and tonight, before he went to bed, he said that no matter where he is I am always on his mind and close to his heart. I think we have a good chance of getting through this finally