Imagine yourself in my shoes for minute. I have seen every type of woman made, naked. When I look at a woman naked, I can appreciate her form, whether she is young or old, small, tall, whatever, but there is nothing new about it to me.
Same thing with the sex. From a mechanical point of view, I really can't think of much that I haven't done, homosexuality excepted.
No one looks like those plasticized computer models. That doesn't exist in nature, and even the best looking women and men have flaws. There is no such thing as a perfect body. Period.
So when you boil it all down, you work with what you have. If you happen to have great genes or spend a lot of time at the gym, then great. If you are pregnant, or you've passed menopause and begun to slow down a bit, that's okay too. If you've put on a few extra pounds over the years and you have some additional or enhanced curves or your belly tends to hide your belt a bit, then that is okay as well.
It is mechanics. The pillows and other props are just that, all about the mechanics of having sex.
What really matters, and you said it yourself: ------------------------------------------------------------ Attitude. Attidtude. Attitude!!!!!!!!!! ------------------------------------------------------------
So, if your high drive spouse or SO wants to make love to you, they most likely don't really care that you aren't perfect physically. What they do want to do is have their way with you, and the props make for fun games (enhanced mechanics). Trust me, the sight of your butt in the air with you lying over one of the wedge pillows won't run him off, even if you think your butt is a size or two too large. You having a smile about what you are doing instead of apprehension, sexually electrifies the air.
All this means, is that if you have a lower drive, then stop worrying about how you look naked to your high drive partner. They probably care about it far less than you do. In fact, they WANT to see you naked - in all kinds of ways. This is an opportunity for the lower drive person to really revel in an action that while requiring a step outside of their comfort zone, can be done with confidence. You get a chance to be naked without shame.
Corri, if your guy likes you more than casually, he will get a thrill out of you naked. Be proud of it. Parade yourself out there for him to see. Invite him in to talk to you while you shower, or shower with you. Make him breakfast with nothing on but an apron. He will enjoy the view. You will gain confidence in his appreciation of you. That will increase your confidence in yourself.
Same for you Mrs.cac. You just have to put yourselves "out there" a bit. Let your guard down. If your SO is anything other than a putz, you've nothing to fear.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
