jethro it is so early in the story for you. in some ways i was lucky in that my h just left and then told me about affair. i didn't have to see him or talk to him. i could scream and cry and throw up and swear at him and he never knew. i loved him and hated him. there is a plan for you and your relationship, but it is so early, much too soon to see it. can you take a vacation alone? even a weekend away might be good. you need to create some emotional space for yourself where you feel safe, but not so distant that your w can't reach you. this will take time. every thing you feel is normal. be really gentle with yourself. lisa
