He is leaving to be alone to THINK - now what?

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HE IS BACK!!!
Details below:
He was basically not responding the whole weekend. Only a very brief, cold text message asking about computer parts. Otherwise, no response even on my text (informing him about our great garage sale, etc.) He said he was going to call me to talk but did not.
So basically I became very depressed. After I told him I don't want him to come back until he is sure he is done with her, then nothing from him. What would I be thinking!!!!! I had horrible assumptions, like how I have pushed him away, how he cannot really let go of her despite the speech, may be she is begging him and they decided to have a whole weekend fun together, or may be the whole thing is just a lie, etc. It did not even make sense but I was thinking horrible stuff. I was crying in front of the boys. Of course, being boys, they had no idea of what's going on. I told them I am sad so I cried. My older one also got teary eyes (he is close to me) but they were back to playing after 5 minutes. Kids!!!
Monday he finally called. He simply told me he is moving back Monday night, and that's it. I sensed that he is not ready to let me have a say in this, so I just said OK. So now he is home. He did hug me and said "THANK YOU" when he moved back. He said it first but eseentially both of us did not want to talk about anything Monday night so we just spent the night doing usual stuff (i.e. watching TV, talking about household stuff).
Where am I now? I am glad that he is back. At least I know his action shows that he is trying. I don't know any details about the level of contact now with OW and I have a feeling I am not allowed to ask. I think I will have to just continue to DB for now. It is so tempting to just ask, but I am glad this board has put some sense in me not to. not yet anyway.