Quoting jethro: Do you not think it healthy to discuss things? Or are you simply telling me that if I'm going to be "angry," then I need to do it elsewhere?
This morning my W and I had a rather painful conversation. I simply told her that I wanted her to get tested for STDs. What an absolutely awful conversation to have... In any case, I got angry briefly, but diffused it fairly quickly. She was pretty calm, apologetic, and said she'd do so.
What I'm trying to say is to moderate the talks so you are not inundating her faster than she can process the pain that these talk no doubt stir up in her as well. (An simple case in point would be: such talks on a daily basis would not be a good thing.) Try to break them up by injecting some levity and playfulness.
Perhaps anger was not the best choice of word, but I do get a hint from your posts that you do still habor some unproccessed anger, but more accurately stated would be the feeling of anguish.
Keep your focus on trying to make today better than yesterday ...
