for me it has been a year since I found out about ea, h left three months later because I couldn't stop the barage and therefore he couldn't stop the ea (ok I'll take the blame for pushing him back there now that I've read dr) while he was gone I focussed little on ow when it came to talking to him (kept that for when I'd call her) when he came back I learned a bit more about the r, blew my top a few times, then a few more. h has been working his way back now for about 2 months and I don't blow up about ow anymore, still get upset or rather feel insecure about it but it is fading and it's only been 2 months.
I go myself to a c (h is not yet ready to go with me) it helps sometimes but honestly I am finding this board and dr to be more helpful than the c at this point.
do I think that joint councelling is a must in repairing the m?? well so far h and I have made major progress without one.
