Me again..., The words you wrote expressing your pain sure did strike close to home.
What has helped me work through the questions of "How/why did she chose to do this?, is to understand her state of mind at the time. Quite frankly, I believe my W truely felt that the any of the answers to her happiness were no longer held in the marriage, even when she said she would work on M this time last year. She knew I would not be convinced of that to let her walk away, so to bring about a certain end (in her mind) to the marriage in my eyes as well as hers, so she preceeded to do what she did. It shocked the he$$ out of her to find out that I was still willing to continue to try to save the marriage.
When she was convinced in her mind that the marriage is REALLY over, then she no longer felt bound to the vows ... so in her actions as well as her beliefs, she truely became a WAW in order to convince me the marriage was over.
