25MLC, That's my dilema too. I don't know if I can keep going through this. I keep telling myself it's all for my S's. If it were only me, I think I would have thrown in the towel last summer. I L my W dearly. So much so, it hurts to think about her being gone. But I can get over it. I can move on. I don't want to, but I can. I think about what the kids will feel like and the F being pulled apart and it tears me to pieces. I had to look in their eyes once before and tell them Mom and Dad were getting a D. I can't do that again. I can't put them through that pain w/o at least trying to stop it. I don't think kids can ever get over it. I don't agree w/ the philosophy that if everyone stays cordial and works on making sure the kids know their loved that they can get over it. I think it will always effect kids, some less than others. But I think in any loving F sitch, they're all effected adversely. Unfortunately, now that I actually understand where some of W new found philosphy is coming from and why, I don't know how patient and civil I will be this go around. It's something I'm definitely going to have work at. I hold only sliver a hope to stop it again.
