Each day is a milestone between you. You've asked the question and have had what appears to be an honest answer. We need to take our time and remember that there is a lot to heal.
Let your W keep coming to you and welcome her. I don't think there was a problem with you bugging her until she told you what was on her mind - it told you a lot - she really does care.
It sounds like you have a good grip of your sitch and understand it very well. Here's to hoping that 2003 will be a year full of goodness, forgiveness and love.
