I look at it this way, her desire for me is the MAJOR goal, it is the cake of the relationship. All of her other characterisitcs are the frosting. Frosting by itself mkaes me sick. Cake by itself seems too dry. But together, they turn out mighty fine.
You're kidding right? No, I guess not... all that other stuff seems less important because you can take it for granted, while the desire is missing and thus takes on the importance of that one lost sheep that you'll leave 99 sheep behind to go and hunt for. But if you came back with that one sheep and found that the other 99 had wandered off, you'd get a different perspective.
She loves you, man. Give her the chance to work with you by figuring out exactly what you need (including what you're getting already and would appreciate in spades if only that one other thing wasn't bugging you so much), sharing all the data she needs about what you need and drawing her attention to it. Don't be surprised when she gives you her own list of what she needs from you, and be ready to work with her on it.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
