Hi Bellis, I finally got a chance to read your new thread. I know the PA is hard to deal with. My H told me about 3 weeks ago. Amazingly, once I decided it didnt matter. I was able to forgive and sortof for forget. Of course we havent been intimate (cant imagine your feeling there). Best advice I have take it slow. Go for long walks when you think it is eating at you. I agree with everyone else, she does feel bad but if you keep trying to make her pay she wont (in fact she will become defensive). Pray to God for help in forgiving and forgetting. I am thinking of you.
