I have read them in front of her, but that tens to put pressure on her.
Good. I'm all for putting the pressure on.
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I tried to explain how it was about relationships and not sex, but she still thinks I just want better sex.
Ahhhh.... and I'm sure in some sense, in some form, you've gotten the... "it's just never enough for you!... I'm tired... I'm stressed... I'm just not like that anymore... what do you want from me".... ????
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It can take a LONG time for a ND women to actually understand what sex is about, if EVER.
Absolutely. And that is the very problem. She doesn't understand. From my own experience, and from Mrs. Cac and Mrs. Nop, the only thing that seems to puncture the fog is when the LD spouse realizes, truly realizes, how deeply their spouse is hurting. She doesn't understand that it ISN'T just about sex.
Have you ever considered taking her to a Marriage Encounter Weekend, like GGB has talked about?
And I'm sorry, I think you really need to turn up the heat on the 'pressure.' You don't have to be nasty or mean... but you do have to stick with it, consistently, like NOP did.
