I followed your breadcrumb trail and got here - directions were great!
You are doing a splendid job of working through this with your W. She does sound very sincere - there is obviously the element of guilt, however, that is also very positive.
Now that the bar thing is out of the way and off the agenda, you can all begin to heal and move forward. I can image it is hard for you, the visions of your W and the OM entering your mind without invitation. No answers for you on this one, although, punishing your W probably wont be the answer - I'm not saying that you're doing that though.
It sounds like the place you and your W are heading to together, will be a b good place. Somewhere fresh, fruitful and honest. Somewhere you can both build together and move forward.
Your new home is going in my favourites and I'll be checking by to see how you are.
