Wow, sounds like a transformation in your W for sure! I think you have exorcised her! Not that this will be easy for you, but it sounds like you and W are on the same side now. That's the best you could hope for, given the painful circumstances that led up to this happening. (Have you read LL's thread today? Very frustrating for her, and me actually because I think our H's are similar...anyway you will see how fortunate you are in some ways.) Not to downplay your pain, but I really do see your situation just getting better from this turning point.