What I see in many LD women is that they can not focus on the needs of their spouses. On their lists of things to do each day, we never get to the top of the list, because if you don't desire sex, there is ALWAYS something that will be more important then sex.
OK, I'll agree with this for the most part. In a nutshell, neither partner is able to adequately communicate their needs to the other, so the needs go unmet. As everyone knows, Michelle's SSM book covers this in great detail.
