It's all about EC, for BOTH sexes. The probelm is that most women have real problems with GIVING EC to their spouse. What they need to understand is that EC for them happens BEFORE sex, but for men, the primary EC comes AFTER sex(for HD men). So LD women dismiss sex as important, they have sex maybe 2 times a month, not realizing that by doing so, EC is only happening twice a month. THey gets tons of it, and they never give it back. Or if they give EC, it is in ways that THEY understand, and it is not what I want. In other words, they can not speak our love language.
Cemar, I don't agree with this assumption at all. I believe that for the most part, neither the man NOR the woman in a SSM is getting "tons" of EC. They're probably getting an equal (low) amount, hence the SSM.
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What I have seen and what Chrome was mentioning is that our wives LOOK for things to occupy their lives, and at the end of the day, they are so tired, they have nothing left for us, but this was their CHOICE!
Are you saying that LD Ws "look" for other things to do all day specifically so they'll be too worn out for sex at the end of the day? If so, you're grossly oversimplifying and you're taking it way too personally. But, that's what you do, isn't it? I can't speak for your wife, but I certainly didn't CONSCIOUSLY tire myself out to avoid intimacy with my H. As I've previously posted, our SSM was the result of many interwoven factors, not the least of which were cultural gender differences.
