I understand the whole EC thing. The problem is that our WIFES do not understand the EC thing. We can give our wives ALL kinds of EC, and yet they do not respond positively. They think that while THEIR love tank is being filled, that we ALSO benefit, and yet our love tanks are still bone dry. If I want affection and quality sex, words of affirmation is going to get you NOTHING. My wife thinks that making dinner, or paying the bills, or washing the clothes, or talking with me is showing me that I am loved. This stuff means NOTHING to me. All I want is her desire, nothing else. Everything that she is giving the marriage is the frosting, the cake is her DESIRE. Frosting only has value when it is on the freaking cake.
