You may be right, there is a bias I think in the self-help world toward focusing on women. I mean, compare a typical women's magazine to a typical guy's magazine. I think that it comes about because many guys don't feel comfortable with communicating their needs due to our culture.
That being said, I do think you are getting a little confused. I know I focus a lot on my W's needs, and I want her to focus on her needs, but only because I am of the opinion that she hasn't taken the time to critically look at our marriage and see what it is she truly needs. I think that if she would, she could more clearly communicate to me what it is she wants and then when I provide it to her it does more to build up EC.
Then again, there are many women on this board, and the advice generally given them is to work on making sure they are meeting their H's needs. I don't see anyone on this board saying ignore your H until he gives you what you need first.
Finally, you are right in your later response about sex being one of the main things that MOST males find builds EC. But there are many very horny women on this board who are willing to do LOTS of adventurous sexual things with their H's, and yet their H's give little to them.
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When do the needs of the man ever get addressed?
Doesn't the book on which this forum is titled focus in part on male needs?
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
