My marriage feels hopeless

[Heartbroken]

Also try and remember she is in la la land - they DO NOT THINK STRAIGHT. It is a very selfish mode and all they think about is how happy they are when with the OP!!!

You cannot believe anything she says right now - if I had listened/believed my H then we would already be divorced by now. The thing is the more time he spent with OW the more things he found out that bugged him - WTH this was less than 8 mos or an "R" I doubt they would have lasted even if I had given up. H said they were fine when it was just the two of them - but that is not reality they never factored in the ex-spouses, their kids, their family and friends. They were in a bubble just the two of them!