Anyway, I asked him if it was different now that I've had 3 children - if it felt different Some difference for us but I like wet and slipery.
Sometimes the Dr. will sew up an episiotomy a little tighter according to some things I have read, but I don't know if that makes sex feel different.
Did it feel different (losser-the same) during sex, to you since that equipment is on youe side of the sexual union.
I asked him if he thought it was taking him longer to "O" b/c of the AD or just b/c we are ML more often & he said b/c of us ML more often. That is about right but some AD's do slow some people down.
CD34, for me cuming too fast is no fun, I just want more. The trip is about as much fun as the destination. The longer the trip takes the more exciting the end can be.
Cooldown time, just soaking, kissing, etc (P in V) is also something I like to do and maybe your H does too.
Hey guys & gals! Update: I did the teabag thing Anyway, I asked him later what he thought & he said "It was phenominal" Woohoo -- Go kelly!!!!
Any other suggestions would be appreciated for someone who hasn't been real "sexually adventurous" in the past.
This is the kind of thing I want him to remember while he's gone!!!
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Journaling, I guess, but could use some encouragement today.
I'm feeling so very insecure -- I guess a huge part of the breakdown of our M and where a lot of issues/problems stemmed from was I didn't realize until now how very attracted I am to my H physically and emotionally -- he was just my husband and, even after I found out he had cheated before, I guess since D was not a part of my vocabulary and therefore didn't ever think it was even a possibility and I guess I just didn't think another A could or would happen, I just took him for granted. (yes, long run on sentence)
Now that I know it truly is possible to lose him, I'm feeling still like I'm not enough or good enough, etc.
He has only 2 wks before he leaves for his 1 yr deployment and I'm left to wonder if everything is really ok w/ us. Everything seems fine -- he's talking like nothing even ever happened (D bomb, etc.) Will he be able to be faithful all that time though? I'm not so worried physically, but will he still talk to OW and the EA heat up while he's over there? I know I will just have to make sure that I am still fulfilling him emotionally over the phone, etc., but if he's still talking to her, how will that affect things?
Part of me thinks I should just talk to him about all of this, but I am SO SCARED that I may hear things I don't want to hear or that starting an R talk, etc. will end up screwing up the progress we have made.
I honestly don't dwell on these negative things all the time, but I think it's all hitting me since it's getting so close to him leaving. The way I handle things (like him leaving) are I don't allow myself to really "deal" with it until I have to -- no sense dwelling on it and being upset about it for months prior to it actually happening, but now that it's getting so close, it's starting to hit home.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Cemar, you don't want to know, it will just make you angrier since it is something I'm guessing your W won't do for you. But, if you do want to know, wiki is your friend:Teabagging.
Let me ask you this. How do you think you are going to feel wondering how things are between you two while he is deployed versus how you will feel knowing where things stand?
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I guess you are telling me I need to talk to him, huh?
Ok, how about some pointers on how to start the convo? Obviously, he dropped D bomb, I stood, never waivered, he finally told me about EA.
I guess my main 2 questions would be (1) whether he truly feels that things are ok and are going to be ok w/ our M and (2) what the status is of OW.
Do I leave the OW issue alone?
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Cadesmom wrote: ----------------------------------- Do I leave the OW issue alone? -----------------------------------
I would until you have proof.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
In a face forward bold but not overbearing stance, face open, simply ask him the question without a lot of pre-qualifiers (no "you know I love you but...").
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Anyway, I asked him later what he thought & he said "It was phenominal" Woohoo -- Go kelly!!!!