I know what is happening at your house. That is how it is here. Except I am the W who is tired after doing all the housework, dinner, kids (school work, groominging, bed). It is exhausting. By the time I sit down my mentality is..."I can't care or do for anyone else...I just want to sit down and relax." If I lay next to my husband, he will start rubbing my back and be touchy and that builds resentment in me like..."leave me alone, I can't give anymore, I am exhausted." Of course I don't say that.
Question: Do you help her out at home with dinner and the kids?
I don't know how old the kids are but mine are all under age 9 so I am stretched thin. I also know that my situation involves deeper issues of EC. I think maybe your wife's does too. Just a thought. My SL is great if we plan a evening and enjoy each other and have a good night...but during the week...it is exactly how you state it. Maybe try mixing up your week? You cook and do dinner once or twice a week..wine, etc and create a date like mood even though it is during the week. I know I would appreciate that. Even more I would love to see a positive interaction of working with the kids and helping them with whatever they need for school. Those things are mood helpers. This may not pertain...but I thought I'd offer my input since you have been trying to give me insight as to my problems.
