Just keep repeating to yourself "actions not words"

What ACTIONS is he doing????
A guy who was SINCERE in that desire would be:
- seeing a psych for that eval he was supposed to have
- working some menial job in the meantime until something better came along, so he can help support his babies.
- getting clean from whatever drugs he's been taking
- doing whatever it takes to get back into his old job or a similar new job that pays a decent wage He actually started a new job with JB Hunt which actually pays more than Schneider. It's still truckdriving.
Which means in order to get in the door he had to take a drug test (CDL drivers have to submit to them... as they aren't allowed to do any drugs as long as they are working for a company... as in not even on their days off (which is GOOD for him))

This guy has BSed you with his words all along agreed , while his actions have not matched up. Don't hold your breath waiting for him to change Once again totally agreed . Maybe he will - if so, he will prove himself as above by his ACTIONS. Don't put any stock in his words.
I am unsure at this point, what actions I should be looking for.
I mean sure the job is a step... sure getting that money is a step.... but that job also comes with A LOT of freetime.

I think trying to fix this marriage may be more of a hassel than it's worth.

OW has herself entwined with his family, she is living in New Mexico with them.
H is in Texas for training with JB Hunt.
He "told" (ACTIONS NOT WORD YES YES I KNOW) me that he gave them his grandmother address (she lives right across town) so that he could be routed directly here on his days off.
He "said" (see above) that while I didn't have to let him in my house I couldn't stop him from coming to town...
I just don't know...
Too many lies.

Could this be too little too late?
I enjoyed chatting with him... but my heart isn't into resurecting this marriage (and quite frankly I don't know if it should be. I felt like I was on the right path before)
I am going to stand still, keep my heart out of it, and watch what unfolds.