Suit, what did you do when S gave you the speech that ultimately made them decide to come back?
You obviously didn't read my post. The answer is in there. Tip : read the bit about keeping my lip buttoned while the alien talk continued straight after ML.
Talking of ML....I hope your are happy now? and grateful of the high 5's you're getting from those who have no idea of the consequences of their congratulations and encouragement.
Maybe I should ask you a second time to go back and re-read my post to you on page 1 of this thread. It's even more deja-vu'ish that I first thought.
I told you that the cat was in the bag, I told you provided you kept your mouth shut when it came to R stuff, that you'll have your ex back. But I also asked you, is she *really* what you want and *really* what you deserve.
Buddy, it is an achievement of monumental proportions to have back, the love, affection and interest of someone that rejected you in the first place. It is mammoth achievement but be warned, that love, affection and interest has completely vanished before and it can disappear even quicker the 2nd time when the alien decides to withdraw it. Dang, they are so good at doing this. It is their primary strength.
Man, but if in the fullness of time, if this person backflips because they haven't done enough work to become a self happy person and look to you for their happiness.....all you've done is bought yourself a time bomb with a silent tick. What you end up like is the same as me, someone that's tread water for 2 years...I'm saying this because nothing that you write about even remotely shows that your ex has renounced her selfishness, she still speaks fluent alienese and sounds like she is still at the base of the summit of self happiness and fulfillment?
This is an investment that is going to determine the rest of your life. For as long as you are ML, going on dates and all that other stuff, you are giving her permission to stop growing as a normal and emotionally healthy person. Even though there is definitely some light at the end of the MLC tunnel, she has still got a long way to go. A very long way to go. They say that the awakening happens at around the midpoint, so of you've been at this for 2 years, guess what? 2 more years to go. I'm not sure if it is accurate but know for sure, that the midpoint ain't the time to either put your life on hold or to start planning a future with them.
Dude it's your life, you do what you like with it. All I'm telling you is the the prize is not determined now, it's determined well into the future.
Sorry that I can't post something that you'd like to hear, my conscience won't allow me to do that.
God Bless
Suit
"It's better to have no spouse than have a bad spouse"
