So yesterday after Easter Dinner with her folks (which was nice) she wanted to go look at some commercial buildings for sale in town. We're thinking about opeing up shop there and she loves the town.
So she starts showing me around town (she grew up there). Where she went to school, where her friends lived, and all that stuff. I realize immediately that she's really enjoying showing me around so I go along with it asking questions and such and generally prolonging the experience.
So I realize how important it is to her to "know" something. To "teach" me something I don't know. We were kinda doing an informal case study of the town based upon her knowledge of it.
This is something that has come up repeatedly as I realize how she wants her input to be important but I'm hard to keep up with.
I have made efforts to make her ideas important and when she comes up with a good one I make a point to take it into consideration and dwell on it and bring it up again later "remember that great idea you had honey, that would really work here"
So again the issue of her feeling important in a business sense is very important. It's been a tough issue especially when she decides she's going to become knowledgable in fields I already am. Kind of self defeating in that respect as she continually puts herself in the position of learning from me and doesn't get that feeling of independence (or independent worth) she wants.
So on another note she wore something very unusual for her yesterday and I certainly made a point to tell her right away how beautiful she looked and how I loved how she looked in colorful clothing. The first time she wouldn't accept the complement. Did her typical smart a$$ reply. But I decided to keep it up. Third time around she accepted the comment and I could tell it made her feel good. I think I have given up to quickly in the past when it comes to compliments and her shooting me down. Never realized how much her shooting me down was in response to her own low self esteem. Now I know to keep it up until she believes me.
Hmmm, Xue, I think you hit on something and may not realize it.
She loves to teach you things.
Can you apply this to your physical relationship (or lack-there-of).
Perhaps she feels you are so experienced sexually that she has nothing to teach you in that regard.
Wouldn't it be a great challenge for her to think she could rock your world in a way it hasn't been rocked. You know she needs to do the pursuing, she needs to feel like she's behind the wheel...
Without a starting point I'm not sure how to put it into action. But I'd like to figure out how.
Really reminds me of my grand master. He was funny and quite the lady's man. Bit of a player in his day. He used to laugh and tell me stories of how he would challenge women. He'd say "Well I bet you don't know how to give a good..." and roll his eyes in disinterest. Funny stuff but maybe there's a lesson there for me. Always thought I'd never be able to try it because I was married but then again...
No actually I'm sick again. Been battling this nasty bug off and on for a month. From the sounds coming from my chest I'm guessing it's bronchitis or something. W is dragging me to the doctor tommorrow. Pretty unusual for me to get sick like this. I think the stress of the last 4 years caught up to me.
But it's amazing to see how well she takes care of me. Devotes herself to it.
R has been very good. I feel good about it and I think if I can get over this nasty bug maybe we can get this thing done. I sure hope so.
The signs sure seem to say so. She asked me to come home early last night and take her to dinner. I did and we had a very nice time (despite my coughing). We sure are best friends and it's obvious how much she likes to be with me.
Well I just gotta get better and I think it will be soon.
I'm happy for you Xue--well, not that you're sick of course, but that things with W are good and that you are such good friends. It's sweet and I am a bit envious (although I am enjoying my single life sometimes).
See how she likes to take care of you when you are sick? When you are more helpless and needy she swoops in and responds. How can you translate this helpless kitten thing into the bedroom? You are afterall a born again virgin so why not play that to the hilt. Let her teach you some things you innocent little kitten you!!!!
See how she likes to take care of you when you are sick? When you are more helpless and needy she swoops in and responds. How can you translate this helpless kitten thing into the bedroom? You are afterall a born again virgin so why not play that to the hilt. Let her teach you some things you innocent little kitten you!!!!
I'm really noticing changes lately. Especially in the words "us" and "ours". I'm also noticing that she's almost affectionate. Close to it any way. Now just to get healthy so I can take advantage of it. Tired of being a newborn virgin.
Funny, years ago when we had gotten together after being apart for many years she used that terminology. Said she was a newborn virgin nad ready to shed the title. Now that was a fun night!!! I'm ready to repeat it.
