My Heart's Journey into the Unknown

[BeingMe]

One can be civil for the sake of the kids, but you are not obligated to be friends, or even friendly. He made his choice, and it seems to me that now that the D is pretty much a foregone conclusion, perhaps it's time for you to move on and past him. You don't need him in your life, except as the father of your children. As a friend, he's been pretty lousy, not to mention his lack of good husbandly qualities, so why do you even want to be friendly. IMHO, civility is the way to go, and work toward true detachment. As for forgiving him ... this sometimes takes time, and you have no obligation (except to yourself) or great need to forgive him, until you are good and ready - you owe him less than nothing. Tough, if he doesn't like it. You have every right to be angry, disappointed, and disillusioned. Just take the time to work on overcoming, detaching, and finding a new path for yourself. I doubt he is too concerned about how he has hurt you and screwed up your life, while he is happily moving on with some younger OW, who will eventually wake up one day and realise that the saying "young man's fool, old man's darling". ain't true at all, more like "young man's sweetheart, old man's MLC fantasy". Ok, that was my rather inept attempt at humour. Sorry! But, it is kinda true.

Take care.