I need to catch up on your sitch! It's so hard to be on the bb with my MIL here. She doesn't know anything about it.
It is very disheatening when I keep trying and he doesn't seem to notice or care. But I will keep trying.
I love Disneyland. I haven't been to Disney World since H and I were first married many long years ago. So I figured while I'm on this coast I might as well pop down for some fun.
I seem to be moving backward lately. I don't know if it is just repressed feelings that my H will come back to me and I am realizing that I don't think he will. Or if it is because his mom is here with me and it feels like H is just out of town while she is visiting or what. I haven't been this sad for a while. Can't sleep anymore either.
H is seeming happier, he's had a HUGE weight from work lifted off him so I can understand why. But I can't help but notice that he still wants nothing to do with our M, and that breaks my heart.
He called last night while the girls were there just to chat fo a few minutes. I think he was hoping for phone sex but I didn't go there. He has been ignoring me and blowing me off lately. I kept our convo light mostly, slipped in a little naughty talk just for him.
Reading the rest of the posts on here makes me question if my H really is MLC. I know to me it seems like it BUT he is no where near as bad as some of the obvious MLCers. My H is not stingy with money, he doesn't spew at me, there is no anger to show residual feelings, he is fairly indifferent to me, other than the "whatcha got on under there?" and other sexual comments. We do have some financial and ligistic things to sit down and talk about and he is avoiding that like the plague. He skirts around the issues and says we will talk about then but he never does. He seems to run away from me as quickly as he can.
I wonder if he is just a WAH and I have been deluding myself that he is MLC and will come back to me one day?
Hey shades....seems to be the flavor of the month...all us women feeling kinda hopeless....
love the lobotamy theory...I saw your pic courtesy of Lissie....youre beautiiiiiiful!
We should all meet at Disney world for a retreat and revisit OUR childhood!!
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
PWS, it's not just you gals. Everyone's slipping a bit. I think we all got so focused on PMA during the holidays that we were worn out later in the week and slipped back a bit.
"I made the wall of shadow draw back, beyond desire and act, I walked on.
Oh flesh, my own flesh, woman whom I loved and lost, I summon you in the moist hour, I raise my song to you."
Reading the rest of the posts on here makes me question if my H really is MLC. I know to me it seems like it BUT he is no where near as bad as some of the obvious MLCers. My H is not stingy with money, he doesn't spew at me, there is no anger to show residual feelings, he is fairly indifferent to me,
I am with you on this one! My W definitely does not have ALL of the major characteistics of the MLC. This is why I am wondering,like yourself, exactly what is going on. She is not spending money like it is going out of style, nor is she stingy with it. Very rare with any major anger my direction. But just when I think that it may not be an MLC, she buys a new car and although was NEVER a vain person, recently spends $180 on a "home mole removal" product from the internet. . . So who knows.
Doesn't sound like you have reverted, it just gets to be so up and down always. At any rate, I sincerely hope that things get better for you.
((((Shades)))) It's OK to question and feel sad about your situation.
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I think he was hoping for phone sex but I didn't go there.
Did you not go there because you felt uncomfortable and didn't want to feel more hurt afterwards? If you feel OK about doing it, it might help him see what he's missing out on.
My H is not the typical MLCer either and I often wonder if he is. Just because they're not an MLCer doesn't mean they won't come back. They still made a mistake and can realize that they made the mistake. Love, PH
Thank you everybody!!! I really appreciate your posts.
PH, I didn't go there because I didn't want to feel used basically. When he came by today I had one of the thongs on he loves and made sure he got a peek at it. He started paying some attention then. LOL!!
I decided to turn my bad mood into something productive. I cleaned out the girls ponytails, barrettes and all that stuff. Got it organized. I also got the girls to try on all their spring clothes (even though it is miserable outside). D8 has outgrown pretty much everything. So I guess I HAVE to go shopping.
We do have some financial and ligistic things to sit down and talk about and he is avoiding that like the plague. He skirts around the issues and says we will talk about then but he never does. He seems to run away from me as quickly as he can.
