I gave my WAW one month for each year we were married and I am now approaching that mark. I have done what I set out to do and sleep well knowing I have reached my goals. I have told her that I am fast approching the place where I will no longer be willing to entertain a friendship, marriage, or anything else with her, that I can appreciate that we may not be suitable for each other, and that if she feels certain that this is case, then I wish to conclude the D as quickly as possible.
She did, for the first time I believe, say "You didn't deserve what I did to you" (re: the PA). This is a good development, but not much to show for over three months of counseling. It is so sad, but there is nothing I can do and I have grown convinced that nothing will help her other than time...more time than I am willing to give.
OF, I relate to your pain & desire for reconciliation "now" so I hope you don't mind listening to this as I'm also not sure of your "faith" but I know this has been highly encouraging for me
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people saying they are in a terrible battle of oppression, depression and hopelessness due to their many marriage problems. This assault on you is great. We understand. We want you to know that we are praying, and your Lord God will give you victory if you call on His mighty Name, "Jesus."
We believe this is a spiritual attack on our standers as many have been and still are fasting for a spiritual breakthrough and the Enemy is getting mad. When Satan gets mad, he will attack your mind, your emotions and feelings.
"Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings." I Peter 5:8-9
We are hearing from standers who say they do not know why they are standing any longer as their marriage is hopeless! You are in a spiritual battle! The enemy is attacking the stander's mind so that they will not stand on the God's Holy Word or His promises. Never forget God's truths that adultery is sin. God hates divorce. You are standing for your spouse to come to their senses as the Prodigal Son did in Luke 15, and escape from the trap of the enemy. Your spouse is a prisoner of war.
What should you do? Put on praise music. Sing out loud, praising your Lord. Put on the Armor of God, pray a hedge of Protection, a wall of fire around you and the Blood of Jesus over and around you and your family, health, finances and your employment. Speak scriptures out loud and say, "Satan, you are defeated by the Blood of the Lamb, our Lord Jesus Christ, you must leave me and my family alone. We are children of the great "I AM."
