the bible does also say in 1 Corinthians7:3-5 paraphrased: to fulfill our marital duties to each other. that our bodies belong to each other and not to deprive each other except by mutual consent and only for a time only to devote that time to prayer. Also to come together again so that we won't be tempted.
we are human and it is natural to have the desires and i'm not using this as an excuse or setting anyone up for failure but if our spouses don't get it It's pretty much a sin to hold sex from your spouse and eventually you will fall into some kind of sin if nothing changes.
