RE what to say to your H about moving. First off, unless you say something insane or truly cruel, don't worry too much about getting each sentence correctly as if that will make all the diff to your H.
Why not say the truth? He wants space and you need space, in order to get more work done. Period. If he pushes it, which I seriously doubt, you can simply ask him to have some empathy and think really hard why it might be a tad uncomfortable for you. You know, uncomfortable to be around someone who might want to work on the M, or might want to sleep with OW again, or whatever. Give him space and GET some space for yourself. You really do need it. Good luck, and btw, my sister (the one who die NOT handle the divorce well) has not admitted to me or our other sisters, insight into her role in the demise of her first marriage. Maybe she has some and they make her ashamed, she did gain a lot of weight. But my point is, b/c she was so afraid to really do the soul searching needed to see her role in the divorce, she continues the same behaviors. It's different now b/c her 2nd H is so sick. (her H#2 has a Brain tumor--which confirms to my sister how the universe is against her, but I digress)) But the point remains, many of the same behaviors she exhibited in her first M, she is repeating now. So I guess what I'm saying is if you really don't see how you contributed to at least SOME of what's going on, then your sitch is probably hopeless. I mean, if you were perfect, there is nothing you can do or change...Hey, the reality is the only thing you DO have control over, is you. It helps if you see those things b/c you can work on them, and you'll be a better woman no matter what happens. good luck, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
