You mention communication and how that could help you marriage. This is true, it definitely helps. But you also have to realize that communication is a FEMALE need, it is not a need of most men. So when you say that the FIRST thing that you and your husband should do is COMMUNICATE, what you are saying is that the first thing you should do is meet YOUR need of communication. Commuication is going to do very little in filling HIS love bank, it will definitely fill yours. And what is he going to tell you that you already don't know? You know that he wants your desire, what more would he communicate?
I guess i should preface that i am not having a good day...but in response to this. If it is all about sex to have a good marriage...then screw it. I disagree completely with you. Communication is not a FEMALE need only. It is a marital need. If all the H needs is sex...well then go get it somewhere. Because to me....sex or L can be mutually satisying when each other feels mutually respected and cared for. To say he will feel loved by me having S is pretty sad. a love language may be physical touch but it can't be the only way to improve our marriage in the state that it is.
Having sex won't convince him, all by itself, that you love him. But consistently refusing to have sex for an extended period of time with no medical cause will go a long way to convince someone that you don't love him. Obviously, there are other things that need to happen, and things that need to generally not happen, to establish a feeling of being emotionally connected.
(by the way, if communication was only a FEMALE need, why are there so many males on this board, including the one that claimed that the very thing he was doing on this board was only a need of females?)
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
