I think you pretty much have all the insights already on what to say regarding moving the office to home....
Good job with H today and a good response from him....see, you don't NEED to ask for a hug!!!
I think for now you need to separate the two...business and R/M....making him happy in the business has NOTHING to do with in the R/M...him making you hurt so much....the two are separate and that is how he is probably looking at it as well...one has nothing to do with the other...it is BUSINESS....your being there doesn't "allow" him to be with OW....so you two are great in business together...that is actually a plus...I don't think you need to pull that plug just yet...and I don't see H sitting on the fence forever...but he will need to see the changes in you...see that you are a positive person....see that you can allow him to "win" (this is how I handled my control problem...I would ask myself "Is this going to kill me or otherwise negatively impact my life to the point of injury?"...If the answer was NO...I let it go...or picked a better time to REALLY just talk about it.)...see that in all of this you remained constant with the business...I don't see him making a decision about OW before he is ready (and you) and I don't see that the business will force that decision...they are totally separate!
Have fun at the party...and for my part...I hope H doesn't go...you need a night of fun on your own!!!!
