Seperated and Miserable

[Yoyowife]

SLM,
I am going through a situation much similar to yours. My H left in Oct. I found out about OW in Dec., although he didn't admit until Feb.

Sometimes he acts like he wants to work on us and other times he says he wants a divorce. He first mentioned divorce in Oct. and a couple of times since then, but he has not filed. The last time he mentioned it was because I probably pushed too hard and we got in a big argument. But just a week later he was at the house again helping me in the yard. I saw him 3 times that week. I just try to detach and not call him unless it is absolutely necessary. I did invite him over for Easter and that went okay. I just try to include him so that he doesn't miss out on major things with kids. When we first separated I just sat around thinking of reasons to call him. I definitely pursued. Now I am much better. Just try to stay to stay busy with kids if you have them)and friends and family. My H isn't home yet, but I'm still hoping. Patience is very hard, but it all we can do right now. Be kind and friendly to him without smothering him.