You mention communication and how that could help you marriage. This is true, it definitely helps. But you also have to realize that communication is a FEMALE need, it is not a need of most men. So when you say that the FIRST thing that you and your husband should do is COMMUNICATE, what you are saying is that the first thing you should do is meet YOUR need of communication. Commuication is going to do very little in filling HIS love bank, it will definitely fill yours. And what is he going to tell you that you already don't know? You know that he wants your desire, what more would he communicate?
I guess i should preface that i am not having a good day...but in response to this. If it is all about sex to have a good marriage...then screw it. I disagree completely with you. Communication is not a FEMALE need only. It is a marital need. If all the H needs is sex...well then go get it somewhere. Because to me....sex or L can be mutually satisying when each other feels mutually respected and cared for. To say he will feel loved by me having S is pretty sad. a love language may be physical touch but it can't be the only way to improve our marriage in the state that it is.
