nvrain- i have a situation that started similar to yours, except that my husband was pretty hot after me at first. we ran into some problems after a few years, as things didn't go quite right, and then he stopped trying. i was immature and couldn't articulate my feelings (from growing up where we didn't talk about that stuff) and he came from an abusive alcoholic family so never really understood what it was all about. my question to you-any of you-are there any issues like that in your spouse's past? when people grow up in abusive homes, they never learn what is normal or ok; they only know what they saw. just putting the question out there.
