...Lin is correct. Your husband did not just wake up one day and decide to have an affair...it was done because he was very unhappy with "the marriage". This unhappiness started, at least a year ago....
Your need to control is your downfall.
You didn't listen to his views You talk over him...to get your opinions out You manipulate his life You have to run the show You feel like you own him
Yet...who is not in control now? YOU
Marriage is a choice...it allows two people to walk together in life...it doesn't mean that one person has control over the other one...it means two people walk side by side...two individuals. You support each other, their dreams, desires, you look after their needs, you allow them to be their very best...while, at times, they fall, you will be there to dust them off.
The lessons you need to learn............
Love can never be manipulated...by anyone.
Your fear of failure is what drives this obsession with your H. It's not love...it's about you failing in your own personal expectations, for yourself...you place more worth on your "face" value to society than your own being...so, if H doesn't want to be with you - destroy - kill the business...you'll still be that miserable, unhappy, clingy person...
Love would say...I love him, so I don't want to hurt his businesss deals...I'll let him sort all this out...if he chooses me in the end, the wait was worth it...if not, he has, my love.
Give him the full leash...let him think...if you pull on that leash he will leave.....................
Leave him alone.......so he can find his way home...........
