H is still at home - we still occasionally do things together - no physical contact at all - we are like brother and sister or best friends I am afraid to invite him to do things - concerned he will feel pressured - but I feel like he is drifting away from me
I'm right there with you, except for the brother/sister or best friend part. Somethimes H feels like a friend (rarely a close one), but mostly he's withdrawn. No physical contact at all (sigh). I was the one that mostly made advances there and I won't now (the whole rejection thing).
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Is time on my side ? Its been 7 months since the bomb and no movement on him moving out what does that mean
Again we're in the same boat except it's only been 3 months since bomb for me (so do I get to drive yet?). I truly believe time is on our side. Partly b/c they haven't moved out . I am hopeful that this just means they're confused and hurting and don't really know what they want(in my case I'm sure finances are part of that which scares me that he's really a WAS and I may not have a chance). I can't really explain why, it's just that from all I've read....patience, time and GAL are the best things we can do.
I don't know if I think I have a real chance or not, but it doesn't matter. For me I HAVE to "act as if" I do. I'm not "afraid" of losing him, I love him. Could I make it and live a happy and meaningful life without him? Yes, I could. So, for me (for now) I do the best I can for myself so that I move towards where I want to be (regardless of him). It's taken alot of soul searching and I'm still figuring things out. That's ok, there's no hurry.
Some days it's really hard to be strong, but i would caution you to take the crying into the shower or out for a walk. You're really not unloved you know, it just feels that way b/c it's not coming from him. I make a list everyday (sometimes mental sometimes written) of the things I'm grateful for. May sound silly, but it helps with my attitude.
I'm sorry I can't make the pain and lonliness go away for you. Somehow, I believe all this is making me who I'm supposed to be.
