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[Heywyre]

I personally have been dealing with the same sitch since day one too and just wrote it off as him "respecting" me and, to some degree, that is the case but the problems go a LOT deeper.

One (of the many issues) we have discovered, some 19 years later, is that my H has had female friends that he didn't get involved with sexually and females that he did get involved with sexually but were never friends with them. He can't seem to put the two of them together. Then when he and I got together, we were (and still are) the best of friends but he can't relate to me sexually because he feels as though this is disrespect towards me. He feels "using" or "taking advantage" of my body is unmanly of him. Sounds like an easy thing to deal with but trust me it's not.

That is just one of the many issues he is battling so we have a long battle ahead of us still. However, I do have to make a decision and it is one that I know will have to be made soon. Do I abdandon this relationship and seek out another for sexual satisfaction, not knowing what I will get in all other aspects of the relationship? Or, do I accept who my H is, flaws and all, and embrace the good person he truly is and put my desires aside?

If I had a penny for everytime I have initiated, every time I have brought up the "lack of" talk, every time I had tried to make something right again, I would be a millionaire. Will I ever stop? I don't know but right now I will continue to show him my love, devotion and faithfulness (as much as it is VERY difficult)