Hi nicola...are you ready for me to shake things up? Having been here for 11 months and trying to fight the good fight for my M, I would never had recommended dating to ANYONE whilst they are in the midst of DB'ing. At that stage, it is confusing, one is vulnerable emotionally and, of course, it contradicts what your whole attitude is about...saving the M.

However, IF...IF...WE chose wrongly...and we've made our changes...GAL'd...and our spouses are gone, or, if you believe your M has become destructive to your mental health (i.e., dead), I think meeting new people is a GOOD thing, but only if and when you are ready. Note I didn't say boinking or looking for love. If we chose wrongly, meeting new people can give you a fresh perspective on personalities. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to meet a new prince (er...said figuratively).

Very simply said, go with what your heart says. Avoid rushing into a new love since you are still vulnerable. There is nothing wrong with having dinner and a drink witn a new man, and, at the end of the evening, saying, "thank you very much I had a wonderful time".

JMO.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;