"Has it been this way throughout your relationship?"
MrsNop,
Yes pretty much throughout. When we were dating, we almost went all the way once but stopped and decided that if we were going to live for God, we would wait until marriage for sex. He never tried again so I thought it was just the purity thing(we went out for 31/2 yrs). then when we were married he didn't try till the 3rd day,I was devastated those 1st two days. then I thought it was going to be fine and though I had never initiated with anyone before I did and sometimes he would/sometimes not, I didn't understand. I've tried to talk to him since the beginning and I don't know how to get through to him. I tried being gentle and understanding. I've asked questions, he doesn't really want to get into it but just says that he has no desire. Can't get him to talk to a doctor about it either. We started counseling about 9 years ago about his anger and it was getting to this issue too but he got tired of the time it was taking to resolve and quit going. I've also spoken to him about how it's affecting me and he seems to listen and I start to think things are going to change and then nothing happens. I feel like running away but I do care about him and don't ask me how I've lasted 15 years like this(I guess I'm a patient person)I just feel like I'm reaching the end of my rope and if I don't do something a part of me is going to die or I'll do something that I'll regret. I already feel that I've distanced myself it's how I'm coping right now. Well if you have any advise, I'll be happy to listen.
