Huband just moved in with OW

[Danu]

Hi,

I haven't posted lately, as there wasn't much to tell. That has changed, for the worst!

Husband called and left a message last Friday "I'll be over on Monday so we can fill out Divorce papers. I don't appreciate hearing about my parent's death, my PTSD & my religion from OW's husband...."

As it turns out, when OW's Husband calls her, my H listens in. He didn't say anything "bad" about my H, just that he's concerned about him having PTSD.

I waited for him on Monday, he never showed. Then Tues night he called me to tell me that he's only going to make the house payments, that the rest is up to me to pay. He continued on to say that I've had plenty of time to find a full time job (he'd agreed I should wait for a full time postion where I am) I lost it. I cried and carried on, and reminded him of his promise to not cut off the money. I even begged him not to do this. I said "I have loved you with all my heart, and let you go with love. I have put your happiness before my own, and I have requested only one thing...that you not ruin our credit" He began to cry for the first time and said "this isn't easy for me either. You're right, I did promise to come through with the money and I will" I then suggested that if he wants to be free financially that we need to sell the property, he agreed. He then told me that he was going to file for a D in a couple of weeks.

As we were hanging up, OW's H called on his break at work. I couldn't hide that I was upset and he demanded that I tell him why. I foolishly told him about my conversation with H. He in turn got upset and left work and called his W. Now, she's madder than hell at me, telling him that I'm being manipulative, and to stop talking to me. She just can't stand it that he talks to me at all. He tells her things like how nice I am, how much I love my H, and how I tell him a different story than my H tells her.

OW recently told him that if she and my H break up, that they stand a good chance of getting back together. They are both so cruel to us!

OW's husband and I have become friends, and we talk quite a bit. We often cry on the phone together, and appreciate each other's support. Yes, we have addressed how we must be careful, and we are.

Any time my H gets mad he over reacts in this way, always has. The "all or nothing thinking" kind of thing, which I recently have come to understand I do a fair amount of also. (thanks to Marcika)

After doing so well, I have fallen, and fallen hard. I've re-read my posts, and am thinking of how I picked myself up before, and must do so again. And I will.

Danu