Heywyre, The cutting is still a concern in the back of my mind, but it's been a year since that occurred. I honestly think it was an attention getter. Her GFs (support group 2)really got on her, as did I. She promised everyone never to do it again. She's been in IC for almost a year. When all of this came up last year, I did confide in one of W's GF. Turned out GF is a sympathizer. I'm now the root of things evil and male. Support Group(1, female co-workers, I don't know anyone real well. W has never been one to socialize w/ the group. She always kept home/work seperate. Only time we ever got together was office Christmas party, even then not yearly. End of last summer, after we reconciled, we ended up out 2 her bosses house for a BBQ. When I walked in w/ W, all the office staff just stared as I came through the door. I can only imagine what she's told them. On our way home W told me her boss commented I seemed like a pretty nice guy. W probably had them thinking I was a snaggled tooth ogre, that beat her daily and ate my kids and tortured the dogs.:)
She's still going to C, but one of my new found concerns is the C doesn't know exactly what our M sitch is. As I've said. W has a huge self-esteem problem. Everything she is working on, reading, doing, is to be more independent and internally strong @ sacrafice of the R,M,& F. I even asked W if, while we were having really tough times last year, I coulc talk to C. No go. I ask MC to talk to C to make sure C understood R situation. MC said no, I should concentrate more on myself improvement than trying to convince C of W's problems. I could get her to understand why I was asking her to do this. Not to try to sway her to my corner, but to make sure C knew there were M problems and she was telling W to do certain things detrimental. Maybe C would take a different path to get to the same destination kinda thing.
W has told me her view of herself has been crappy b/c of her dad and brothers. Now I'm lumped in w/ them. She sees the only way she can be of value is b/c of her abilities and reputation of her job. I really think this is the force behind why she's want to strictly focus on her job. It's the only thing that no one could possible tell her she isn't doing well on. Not that she's told that now.
