I agree about following up with flowers, I'm going to wait until next week for sure, plus I will probably schedule another coaching session before I do anything.
25yearsmlc,
She is now back to work (flight attendant), she had her hand fractured, but it did not require surgery. The only problem she says she has now with it is when it gets cold outside or rainy. That’s when she says its sore, but otherwise she doesn’t think about it too much. She was on medication for depression that she had been suffering from in the past (family cancer a couple years prior to us meeting), and from what I understand you can’t just cut that off without some repercussions. After the injury she was on pain medicine daily, so I’m not sure if there was some sort of chemical reaction between the 2. Right now, no more pain medication just the depression meds.
The ways she tested me before I think we similar to many other situations. She would try to push me away by telling me that I am so nice and caring and sometimes she was not. She couldn’t understand why someone like me would love her so much. I always just listened to her and would tell/show her how special she was to me just the way she was. She was in a couple bad relationships before, so I think she was expecting me to react to certain behaviors like her old bf’s. One instance I can remember was when she had friends in town. We all went out to dinner, then after went to a bar just for some drinks. All of us (me & her friends) were having a good time, then she pulled me aside and said that they just kind of wanted a girls night. I said that I understood and its not a big deal. (I should probably say that one of her friends got married last year and is having some trouble, she felt rushed into it, so I’m not sure if she was telling my gf not to rush into anything.) The next couple days she would distance herself from me, until I approached it. She thought I was mad at her for saying those things, and didn’t understand why I was so accepting of her and her friends. She has always said that when she gets scared she pushes people out of her life, example now. I guess this time she pushed a little too much.
We both have college degrees (her: arts & mine: MBA finance). My hours are not too bad, I usually get into the office at 6 or so and leave by 5. I’m salary plus monthly bonuses, so my security is fine. Looking back, I would complain to her once in awhile about my day, and now I understand that she could have taken it as, ‘He doesn’t like his job, and now he might not like me either.’ But honestly it wasn’t anything like that, she is all I ever wanted, and I have told her that many times.
The injury didn’t really affect us ML too much, def did not decrease, in fact it might have actually increased it because we were together every night.
I guess I’m just looking for some guidance if there is anything I can do at this point? I don’t feel as though I can move on from her, we had such a great thing, and I feel like I know her so I know that her recent actions are not truly her (Believe nothing of what they say and only half of what they do). How true do you think that is?
