BeingMe,Heywyre and ROOT, Thanks for stopping by. You're all right there's a lot to be concerned about in all of this. When D got dropped first time last year, I did exactly what I shouldn't have done. I called her every name under the book, biotch, selfish; tried to guilt her out of her decision. You name it I did it. Then once I started calming down & DBng, I tried to talk rationally to her. About relationships, responsibilty, parenting, what it would do to the kids,MLC. I've tried to talk to W about all and she denies any depression says I'm trying to be controlling and guilt her into staying. I should have mentioned on the earlier post that the "cutting" that occurred last year didn't last very long. AAMF, that's actually what was able to get us started on MC, as well as W in IC. She hasn't done it since. But when we were going through the D last summer, one of the things I was very concerned about was her mental state. I even contemplated a restraining order to keep her away from the kids. I've asked, talked, pleaded w/ her to consider AD or at least go to a PSYC to get evaluated. As for the GP or menopause, all things that have been considered or done. About a year ago W was convinced she was starting MP, based on her "support group" @ work. She even went to GP for some testing. Not sure why her GP, but anyway. Doc told her no where even close. Last summer,as things were escalating I was really desperate. Additional background-after birth of S8, W diagnoised w/ postpartum depression. She would never consider taking meds, but she went to 2 or 3 sessions w/ a "counselor". W said it cured her. Now to current. I called her OBGYN, thinking if she helped W before, maybe again. Told her all of the sitch. I also knew that W had skipped last cple years of female check-ups. Asked the OBGYN to call W on the premise that she hadn't been in for a while. When W would go in, Doc was going to evaluate and ask some questions then make recommendation to go for PSYC evail and maybe get on meds. W won't ever listen to any of my suggestions, but she holds Doc in high reguards. She's known her for many years. I figured if OBGYN & a PSYC Doc told to get on meds, she'd listen. Doc called her, but W never followed up. Instead of returning call to OB, she just went through the scheduler, put appt. out like 3 or 4 mnths. I blew it & told her the reason her OB had called was b/c of me. Of course W exploded. Called back and cancelled her OB appt. and called her GP. Thats when she got hormone levels checked and GP told her she wasn't approaching MP.
