Yes but are you doing them for you or for him.... I am going thru the same thing in a way... Very committed to making changes, but girlfriend says we are thru and won't talk.... etc.....
I am really looking at things I have done during the relationship, another Author I don't know if I can use or tell the person but he is on TV....wink wink....Book is "Rescue Relationship"....It makes you really GET REAL with yourself.
I thought I was being honest with myself, until I went thru and worked thru the entire book.. I will be honest I have never been more ashamed of myself in my life, as being so blind to things i was doing to destroy the relationship, and to hurt the person i loved. Although, they were not intentional, I was not a good friend, mate, etc....
But bottom line is what I am hearing from you as well I know as I have a tendency to do the same thing....is well I am making all these changes, and tend to lay them out, "WHY CAN'T YOU SEE THE CHANGES I AM MAKING!!!" and the other person says yeah right heard it before.. I know this is hard, but to be honest you really have to look after yourself right now.....
I have found that even though I am committed to changing, they don't want to hear it, they need to see it as actions speak louder than words, and to be honest with you, they will be looking for any slip, to say see I knew you weren't changing....if that happens you and you alone have to remember that we are all human and everyone slips...
Just remember you can't control anything he does, all you can control is you....Lord knows i have made that mistake way too many times in the past....
