Looking backward but only to look forward SIX

[sage]

Hi all,

A quick one since I'm at work. I mean to be journalling every day but they just get away from me. :-( I really think it would be helping.

Things are mostly good, I guess. We've both mellowed out a bit and I'm doing pretty well with my "new attitude" of viewing my h as a good husband and father. I'm very much struggling with fears about his "friend" at work but I'm working on that too.

I started listening to M&V again yesterday which is always a good shot in the arm for me. I'm reminded again how much mistrust and unsolicited criticism and advice = distancing, lethargy, a lack of responsibility in h. I really, really want to table my criticism and advice. I feel it oozing out of me! I can't remember if I mentioned this recently but one thing I need to do is just shut up a bit more...that worked SO well the first time around. I don't MEAN to say something that sounds untrusting of his abilities, it just comes out that way ;-) I think the less said the better.

So, this weekend (and beyond) is ALL about forgoing that sort of "helpful" commentary for h....and also about quieting the "what if, what if" voices in my head.

Sage