I love communication like that. The problem is that it often dissappears in SSM's like mine (as Michelle writes). But Verbal commuication is only 15% of all commuication. Non-verbal communication is the majority. ND spouses tend to not realize that most(if not all) of the non-verbal commuication they are putting out is NEGATIVE to the other spouse. And this may not be intentioanl, it is that they just are very uncomfortable with commuication that is physical in nature. I think this is closely related to their feeling of being overwhelmed bye the other person.
