I think that's a huge part of the big picture: we have to make sure that we don't forget what we have learned through our sitch's and make sure that what was being put on the "back burner" never gets luke warm again.
It honestly takes an effort and that's pretty much how we all got where we are -- someone, whether it was H or W or both, wasn't putting effort into the things that need to be nutured in an M, even through all the daily stresses w/ work, kids, etc., etc.
Bingo. As I've said many times before, some of us are only looking for some effort from our spouse.
