He is leaving to be alone to THINK - now what?

[Heartbroken]

Thanks for your kind words!

You seem to know what cautious steps to take - moreso than I did at this stage! Just go with your gut feel - too many times we poo poo our internal red flags - we need to recognize them more!!

At first I let H call me and I was detached as much as possible. We do talk several times a day now and I sleep with the cell phone in case I have anxiety attacks in the middle of the nite - he always answers too! I do get anxious when he does not pick up because this is how it went when he was busy with OW on the phone.

Flashbacks and triggers are something fierce right now and I am going through some really sad periods again - but at least I can cry to him without him running away. He is helping me through my emotions (finally).

You may have to set some boundaries with your H stating that he needs to be COMPLETELY honest if there is ANY contact from the OW on her part or his. You just need to be careful of your reaction if she does call him - I was never angry at H just very proud and happy that he was telling me the truth - praising him like he was five yrs. old...I was upset - but more with her than him....

I was asking H daily 'Any form of communication today?' - he would joke no calls, text's, emails, smoke signals...." I am starting to forget to ask but still do occaisionally. My H knew if he lied about her again I WAS FILING - three strikes and he was out. My heart cannot take any more lies - he knows I am serious since I never said I would file before during all of his BS...

You are doing great! Baby Steps and end ALL interactions with H on a positive note!