She's depressed...and it sounds as though she is severely depressed right now. Depression is not an external problem. It is about issues within herself. You cannot fix it...but you knew that already.
Yes it is hard. Oh so hard. You need to find a way to take care of yourself in this so you can be her place of comfort.
But as you spiral downward and become resentful...if you were her would you feel safe coming to you? No.
Please find a counselor, a hypnotherpist, a psychiatrist. Someone to talk to and someone who can give you guidance as the caretaker of a depressed spouse.
And read books about dealing with someone else's depression.
Yes, by recognizing your spiral and seeking help it may not be an MLC...let us Hope. But I have seen MLCers in early stages come here to post in fear and confusion for there feelings.
Now I do not think that is you...just saying that some MLCers recognize their fears in the beginning...but most lose the recognition as they go deeper.
Please find someone to talkt oto. Oh, I'm not saying don't come here...do that. But verbal speaking to a physical person is so helpful.
