NEW THREAD FOR 2940 --- HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Heartbroken]

Good job scheduling the move - NOW JUST GO THROUGH WITH IT despite your doubts this weekend!!!!

You say: "My goal is to have BOTH of us genuinely make the commitment to save our M and make it something magical."

You cannot have a goal for H - you can only set goals for YOU!! He is NOT committed to you or the R. I believe he is saying as much about your R as he is to appease you - been there with my H - they tell us only what they think we can handle or want to hear. They really don't want to hurt us more than they already have so out of guilt they say something they feel is trivial yet we bank our whole world on what they are saying. We analyze it and make it so much more than they ever intended.

You may be running out of chances with H - are you willing to risk that right now? Avoid H at all costs....

Please try to focus on just you - go and read other people's sitch's see how they have changed over time. You need to practive patience, patience, patience! You can only change YOU not H or the OW. I know this is easier said than done but with time you will get through this with or without H.

I wish you peace!